In many ways our marriage is like most others. Erin and I love each other. We get along well most of the time. We also have fights. There have been things in our past we have hidden from each other and this past week, we brought them out and shared them with each other.
I came out of the bisexual closet so to speak and she told me she fooled around with her ex-boyfriend shortly after we had married. It was good to get the truth out. I think we both felt relief in doing so, but there was also hurt both in realizing we had been hiding things and lying to each other and as a result of what it was we were hiding.
The next few days were probably the toughest we have ever been through together... but out of the honesty and through the heartbreak, a closer intimacy has started to blossom between us. Looking back, I wish I had recorded the ups and downs we have been through if for no other reason than to be able to remember our past mistakes and happy times and learn from both. We can always look back into our memories of the past. We can take the time now to record our journey toward a deeper, happier life that, after almost 13 years of marriage, is open, honest, and free.