I was interviewed for this website a while back and they've finally published it on the site. My name was obviously changed for the article.
Kink Interview: Jack’s Love of His Wife’s Sneakers
Posted on December 8, 2009 by Exploring Intimacy
It seems that foot and shoe lovers around here are ready to take off! Jack is here to tell us about how he discovered his love of women’s comfy shoes, something he now explores with his wife of many years. Jack is certainly proof that marriage and kink can go together! Keep reading to learn about it.
You can call me Jack. I’m 32, married over 10 years. I am really into women’s shoes. I thought for years that it was very uncommon and while, as the more “mainstream” fetishes go it still is, I am finding more and more people into it. I recently learned it has a name… retifism. The probably more unique nature to my kink here is that while I love seeing women in shoes, especially tennis shoes, it is the shoes themselves that turn me on.
I love playing with a woman’s pair of shoes, either cumming on them or masturbating with them… I also get completely aroused just by seeing a pair sitting there. I told my wife once and even showed her some pictures I had taken playing with her shoes in one of those we-were-both-over-the-top-horny-and-talking-too-much moments… she would tease me for weeks just walking through the shoe department at the store… and yes, I was hard as a rock every time.
My searches for like-minded fetishists on the internet have evidenced to me that it is probably more common among gay men, with men’s shoes. Honestly, they do nothing for me.
How did I get interested? Wow… I guess it started as a more typical foot fetish. In 9th grade, when I started dating the girl who would later become my wife, I would lick her feet and suck her toes. My wife (then gf) had a pair of plain white canvas shoes that I liked too. So after a few years of marriage, I eventually started playing with her shoes.
I have brought this up more recently again with my wife. She gave me a handjob with one of her dirty socks and I have also told her I would like her to use one of her shoes. Aside from that, having sex with my wife while she has her shoes on has been one way I have incorporated it, as well as fucking the shoes themselves or cumming on them.
I have needed to make sure I don’t leave stains on the shoes. Of course, in addition to not staining them, it was especially necessary because for a long time, she had no idea I played with them. After I told her, I was advised not to ruin them.
I think the submissive nature to getting off on her shoes is a large part of the lure for me. I do like how they smell, especially tennis shoes… new or worn. I feel in some odd way connected to my wife when I’ve had sex with her shoes.
When I told my wife, at first she was like… really? why? … I was of course embarrassed at having opened up that way and the humiliation was very exciting. It was the first time I had experienced that tied to sexuality. She was pretty quick to go from shocked curiosity to playful teasing. On the internet, it seems to be mostly welcomed, but I will occasionally get an off comment. I just delete them.
Resources: Google search “retifism” or “altocalciphilia” .
Jack, thanks so much for sharing your stories with us. It isn’t often that we get interviews about long term, committed couples exploring kink together and it’s good to hear about that side, too! I hope you’ll drop us a line as you continue to explore, to tell us how it’s going.